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Admitting when you’re wrong. This is something so many of us struggle with. Firstly, we don’t want to believe we’re wrong; but once we have had this realisation we most definitely don’t want to admit it. Generally, you make a point in a discussion because you genuinely believe in it. If you passionately put this point forward and then begin to realise you are wrong, it can be very embarrassing and difficult to fess up. But here’s why you should.
As someone who hates conflict, the most persuasive reason for me to do this is because it ends the argument. If you show someone that you have learned from what they have said and now understand that you were previously wrong, they are likely to happily stop arguing with you. There is nothing more to argue over. Spending yours and their time arguing when you already know you are wrong will rile both of you up even more. Nobody likes to waste time.
As well as this, it is an extremely attractive trait. It is infuriating to be around someone who thinks that they are ALWAYS right. It often gets to the point where there is no point discussing anything with them because they simply will not listen. The opposite applies when someone has the ability to admit and accept that they may be wrong. It is refreshing and calming to be around. It allows and encourages many discussions on interesting topics to be had, because you know you are both listened to and can learn from each other.
Leading on from that, one of my main mottos in life is that you can learn from everyone. If you have the closed mindsight that only your point of view is correct, you are preventing yourself these learning opportunities. Discussing and widening your horizon is one of the most rewarding things you can do in life. Don’t ruin this for yourself.
It can be difficult, and I’m not telling anyone to be a pushover. Stick up for yourself when you strongly believe you are right. But there will inevitably be times when you’re not. Realising this can greatly enrich your life.
Sending hugs, Kiayah xxx